this article just caught my eye
Ambition: Why Some People Are Most Likely to Succeed
a few interestin quotes i got which i find really true..
" Every buffalo you kill for your family is one less for somebody else’s; every piece of land you occupy elbows out somebody else. Given that, the need ti get ahead ought to be hand-wired into all of us equally."
notice the "ought-to-be", the truth is it’s not. i dunno wad you guys think, but there are some ppl in this world who does get around without much ambition in them. Although i dont think it is inborn.
nor do i think its the genes
coz i dont think my mum and dad are ambitious. but the 3 of us were born to be a bit competitive than others. haha.
" For every person consumed with the need to achieve, there’s someone content to accept whatever life brings"
Contentment is good, but too much of it, makes you too laidback to care about anything else.
"Ambition is an evolutionary product"
I love this sentence.
" Ambition is energy and determination"
" Is the overworked lawyer on the partner track any more ambitious than the overworked parent on the mommy track?….We may listen to Mozart, but should we applaud Salieri?"
Ambition cant be valued accurately.
"Its fundamentally human to be prestige conscious"
not really……….
" Men and women just differ in their appetite for competition. There seems to be a dislike for it among women and a preference among men"
I dont agree. Men can be such a wimp at times. Women, ferocious. I dont know. but circumstances differ. I think men and women react different to different situations.
"Ambition is an expensive impulse, one that requires an enormous investment of emotional capital. Like any investment, it can pay off in countless different kinds of coin. The trick, as any good speculator will tell you, is recognising the riches when they come your way"
well written.
anyway, as the title suggests, relationships…haha.
im writin this to answer ck’s questions.
he has been askin these kinda questions yesterdae.
shit, i dunno how to ans them in english.
basically, ive known mates who are serious advocates for "the no relationships stuff" but these people always go back on their word once they meet the right one. I dont mean the right one as the "ultimate right one" coz there could be many " right ones" in this world. So im bent on the idea that people get into a relationship on impulse. but gd impulse. If you feel like you’re ready, why not?
But i still think relationship stuffie are a bother. coz i always see them botherin my frens. And marriage, ok, i agree with ck after thinkin much. Marriage would be one of the final destination you’ll get at after a long-term relationship. But you cant get into one for marriage. I seriously think nothing would come out of it if in a relationship, your role is to take something out of it and not give. Anyway, marriage is just a status-pursuing ritual. And, i think most people settle with marriage partners that are not their " ultimate ones". Sad.
I dunno. Im still as immature as others to comment of this kinda things. maybe ill laugh at myself years down the road when i reread this.
to ck’s question on whether ive ever been in a relationship: my ans is still " not really" haha. ambiguous ans always rocks.